Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Strange Encounter 2

A week ago I was travelling back to Dallas from Houston in the afternoon bus. It was due to a last minute change of plans that I had to take the bus. I reached the bus station 15 minutes before the departure and it was a holiday weekend so it was pretty crowded. The crowd did not give me a good feeling as I was travelling alone and a crowded bus meant no choice of seat. Luckily the scheduled bus was full and they had to arrange for an extra bus for the rest of us. This meant there were only 15-20 people in the new bus, it was a huge relief even though I had to wait for an extra 30 minutes for the bus to leave. 

I boarded the bus and chose a good seat. A man had smiled at me while I was waiting at the bus station and he happened to come into the same bus and sat right across my seat in the next section. We exchanged smiles again and the bus started moving. Within no time I had dozed off, thanks to my motion induced sleep. I got up after an hour and saw that we hadn’t even left Houston city limits. The roads were packed with cars and it was pouring cats and dogs. In the semi-sleep state I sat there cursing my fate and started staring out the window wondering how long it would take for me to reach home. I heard a voice say ‘Excuse-me’ I turned around. It was the same man. He said “Do you know how to put your seat back?” I said yes and started to explain how. Apparently he already knew how and was asking just to make sure I knew so that I could sleep comfortably. ‘Very sweet of him’ I thought to myself and told him that it wasn’t necessary and that I was just fine sleeping bending forward with my head on my knee. I tried going back to sleep, when I woke up I realized only 10 minutes had passed since my attempt to sleep.  After two and half agonizingly long hours we reached our mid-way stop where we would have some time to go out and get something to eat and drink. 

I was parched so I went out and got a bottle of water and some peanuts to munch on the way. This man came back few minutes after me and was walking around restlessly in the bus talking in Spanish to various people. I did not bother much and got busy eating my peanuts. He came to me after a while and asked me if he could use my phone to make a call. I gave it to him at once; I really had no second thoughts.  He called someone and spoke something in Spanish. From what I could make out he was informing someone about the delay in the bus schedule so that they wouldn’t have to wait in the bus station for long. It then occurred to me that I have got to inform my husband too. He gave the phone back to me and I immediately sent a message to my husband informing him the approximate arrival time. The bus driver was back in bus and he asked to see around and make sure all our neighbors are in bus to ensure we don’t leave anyone back. My only neighbor was this man who had just used my phone so I did not bother to spend more energy and got back to my peanuts, I offered him some but he politely declined it. A lady passed by us to go to the restroom and this man informed her that he finally could make the call from my phone and that lady said ‘God bless you’ to me and moved on. I was left wondering why.

An hour later I checked my phone and it had 2 unread messages. First one was from my husband acknowledging me and asking me to call when the bus reaches Dallas and second one was from the number this man had called asking whether he was still around. I replied to both the messages and starting gazing through the window, we were near Ennis. The landscapes and flora of Ennis is absolutely beautiful. Acers and Acers of land was covered with a browny red blanket of flowers called the Indian Blanket. It was just too beautiful to watch the farms of sunflower and the grass land covered with Indian blankets complementing the cloudy grey skies. Few minutes later I got a response from that number asking me to inform this man to call again. I dialed the number and gave my phone to this man again. He spoke and informed them that he was near Ennis and would be reaching in an hour to Dallas. He thanked me and started talking to me, he said that he was into construction of barns and he had constructed a huge barn and a stable for horses here in Ennis for someone. We just started talking about all generic stuff at first and then suddenly he said that he was returning from the Prison and that is why he doesn’t have a phone. I did not know how to react, I guess a thousand thoughts might have crossed my mind right then because I had never met/spoken or even directly seen a prisoner before. I did not want to offend him with my silence so I asked him the first thing that came to my mind “Why were you in the prison?”. He started his narration “I used to live in Dallas, working in a fire alarm inspection team for a private company. I also do some construction work on the side. Six months ago in a bad part of Dallas my car’s battery had gone off and I needed a jump start. I asked many but no one stopped their car. I finally got a man who agreed to help me jump start my car but demanded that I give me 10 bucks for that. I agreed as I had no choice, I went out and connected the wire from his car to mine and this man sat in my car to try and start my car. As soon as the car started he took off with my car. I called the cops immediately and informed them that he could not have gone far so they could nab him in the surrounding area. It was a new 2010 black Ford F150 whose loan wasn’t paid off.” I interrupted him to sympathize with him and asked whether insurance covered the loss. He said that insurances has a clause stating that if the car key is the ignition then they will not replace the car to the owner but just pay off the remaining amount of the loan to the bank. He expressing his frustration saying how can one jump start a car without leaving the key in the ignition. He makes a valid point I thought and asked him to continue. He continued “So now that I had lost my car and my money, I was on the lookout for a second hand cheap car. I found one and bought it, within 30 minutes of driving it off the dealer I was caught by the cops because it seems that I had just bought a stolen car. They asked me for the papers, I gave it to them and they told me that it was fake and arrested me. I told them that it was the dealer who had cheated me but they did not listen to me. In the court the judge asked me to name the dealer and give out his details. I did it promptly and then the judge ruled saying even though it wasn’t my fault I was getting six months imprisonment because during the arrest the car was in my possession.”  I told him how sorry I was that this happened to him and expressed my discontent with the police who failed to find his stolen car but arrested him for some other. He went on to tell me the mess the cops had created for him after his release “During his arrest the arresting officer asked him about his birth place and he said X city, New Mexico and the officer by knowingly or unknowingly wrote it as X City, Mexico and so soon after his release he was sent to the immigration department where he had to sort it out.  Sometimes when things go wrong they really go wrong from all sides. He went on to tell me about how his life changed because of this incident and that he had learnt a very simple lesson in a very expensive way. He said that he was going to start afresh in a new house with a new job. 

I felt really sorry for that guy and honestly I never had any doubts about whether this guy was lying. In the end to add to the adventure I already had, the bus driver lost his way and was heading in the wrong direction. All of us were unaware of it until this same guy realized it and went to guide the driver to the bus station. He saved us all a lot of time from the already long journey. As soon as the bus stopped at the stand this guy got down after me and vanished into the crowd, leaving me with my second strange encounter. I was dead tired from the journey but too excited to see my husband and tell him all about this man. Although I knew I am going to get the usual lecture “Be careful always and do not trust everyone. Why do you give your phone to strangers?” Well, It doesn’t matter now. I haven’t heard back from the cops and it’s been a week now so I guess I am not in any sort of trouble. Plus, I really did believe everything that man told me.  

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Indians Abroad


What’s with the Indians in a foreign country, the so called NRIs? They don’t seem to miss a chance to undermine their native country. Do they forget they belong there? OR take pride in all the misdoings of their country? Is everyone like this or is this specific to the Indian gene?
This thought is provoked time and time again by many around me, but I always manage to suppress it. But, today’s incident had to be put down. We had a baby shower today for a colleague. He himself looks like a kid by the way and he is having a baby girl next month. So we all gathered around opened the gifts,  ate cake and pizzas, and it was then when an Indian out of nowhere uttered these words aloud to a fellow Indian “Isn’t it nice that here even before the baby is born people do all this stuff and in India nobody cares even after the baby is born”. There was a very uncomfortable silence in the crowd as am sure nobody knew how to react or what his point was.  I stood in a corner observing everyone’s reactions while trying hard to maintain my straight face while my disappointed face was fighting its way out. Why disappointed, because what he said wasn’t true. We in India had our versions of baby showers, the only difference was we made it ritualistic and gave it another name that’s all. Was he not aware of it? That’s not even a question because it’s impossible for an Indian to not know that. Anyways, People moved on to talk about other generic topics when the same person struck again. This time he said “In India we don’t get to know the gender of the baby until it is born”. Okay this made a little sense and this time people acknowledged him and joined in to say how surprised they were and how important it is for them to know the gender. Very little do they understand the consequences of revealing the child’s gender in India and that there is more to it than to just worry about shopping for appropriate stuffs for the baby before its birth.

Recently on CNN I had read this piece whose headline read “Women killed her mother-in-law to protect her unborn baby”. This wasn’t in India, this was in a country where they revealed the gender of the baby which made the mother-in-law very unhappy and she started forcing her daughter-in-law to have an abortion against her will. I guess it is not fair to assume that everyone read it or know about what happens in India when the gender of the baby is revealed before its birth. Well, there are many unwanted babies abortions happening all over the world, some Indians just tend to be disgustingly choosy when it comes to abortion. Anyways, let’s not go there.
Moving on, this wasn’t the first time I had heard such blatant accusations against India. In my short stint outside India I had come across many Indians who do not hesitate to blame India and its system for everything. The wildest thing I have heard from an Indian living abroad is this “The ambulance comes within minutes here; and in India people do not give a damn about a person’s life.” I cannot presumably post a good argument against it, because to some extent it may seem like that could be the fact. But, I always wonder how any country would perform with a population as huge as India. Would they still have everything in order and continue to perform as efficiently or breakdown and join in the chaos. One can only wonder.
I do to some extent agree that things are not perfect in India. But, is any country PERFECT perfect? I fail to understand the point of putting our dirty laundry out for display in front of total strangers. Are they trying too hard to blend in or am I trying too hard to not accept the reality?